24 Hour Hotlines

Central Coast:
Suicide Prevention: 1-877-663-5433 / 1-877-ONE-LIFE
Crisis Text support 24/7: Text HOME to 741-741
Domestic Violence Crisis Line: 831-372-6300
The Trevor Project Lifeline - Supporting Transgender & Nonbinary Youth 24/7: (866) 488-7386 or Text START to 678-678
Trans Lifeline (Trangender suicide hotline) 877-565-8860
Family Help Line: 831-339-8228
Monterey County resources
Additional Monterey County resources
    If you lack health insurance: Monterey County Behavioral Health
    If you have health insurance: Community Hospital of the Monterey Peninsula Behavioral Health

Warm Line
The Peer-Run Warm Line (1-855-845-7415) is a non-emergency resource for anyone in California seeking emotional support.
Psychedelic Peer Support Line provides emotional support during and after psychedelic experiences. Call or text 62-FIRESIDE Animal-assisted psychtherapy with a therapy dog in Pacific Grove, Monterey Bay CA


Fair fighting rules

Active Listening worksheets:
Receiver Flowchart
Reciever Instructions
Sender Flowchart
Sender Instructions

Olivia Stadler's article on Reflective Listening

Non-violent Communication:
NVC 4 part process
NVC feelings and needs

List of feelings

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy:
CBT Automatic Thought Record Sheet
CBT List of Cognitive Distortions

Judge your neighbor worksheet - Byron Katie's The Work

Guided exercises

Mindful Self Compassion exercises

Tara Brach on RAIN (Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture)

Video shorts

Brené Brown on Empathy - animation

Understanding Meditation - animation

Brené Brown on Blame - animation

Tea Consent - animation

Animal-assisted psychtherapy with a therapy dog in Pacific Grove, Monterey Bay CA

Links The Alternative Sexualities Health Research Alliance Polyamory-Friendly Professionals Directory

AASECT The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists FetLife is the Social Network for the BDSM, Fetish & Kinky Community

Bay Area Open Minds

Polaris clinic in San Francsico providing psychedelic-assisted therapy

Sage Institute clinic in East Bay providing psychedelic-assisted therapy

The Center for Consciousness Medicine psychedelic-assisted therapy training program


The 5 Personality Patterns by Steven Kessler

Waking the Tiger and Healing Trauma by Peter Levine

In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Maté, MD

The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook by Kristin Neff

Soul Without Shame by Byron Brown

The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller

Loving What Is by Byron Katie

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

Why is it Always About YOU? by Sandy Hotchkiss

Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski

Transforming The Living Legacy of Trauma by Janina Fisher

Radical Self-Acceptance by Tara Brach

Comfortable with Uncertainty by Pema Chodron

Take Control of Your Anger by Michael Ballard

For Relationships:

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg

Boundaries in Human Relationships by Anne Linden

The New Codependency by Melody Beattie

Attached. by Amir Levine, M.D., and Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A.

Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix

Keeping the Love You Find by Harville Hendrix
Imago Couples Therapy

Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy

Wired for Love and Relationship RX by Stan Tatkin
Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT)

More Than Two by Franklin Veaux, Eve Rickert, et al.

Polysecure by Jessica Fern , Eve Rickert, et al.

The ADHD Affect on Marriage by Melissa Orlov

After the Affair by Janice Spring