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About Olivia Fae Stadler

Olivia currently offers in-person psychotherapy services in Pacific Grove, CA as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) #115228 and Certified Hakomi Therapist. Telemedicine (online therapy) services are an option for clients non-local to the Monterey area (within the state of California and internationally). COVID safety protocols are in place.

Olivia obtained her Master's degree in Integral Counseling Psychology from California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS) in San Francisco. Her alma mater reflects her value system of taking a grounded approach to The Perennial Philosophy integrating Eastern and Western thought. As a transpersonal therapist, she brings non-dual wisdom traditions including Buddhism, non-dual versions of Christianity, and the New Thought movement to the process of deep inquiry. Prior to her clinical training, Olivia became a Certified Subtle Energy Medicine Practitioner and had been working formally with subtle energy since 2007.

Psychotherapy is a second career for Olivia. She holds a Bachelor of Science degree in Computer Science from Principia College in Illinois. Her earlier career in web design/development included management experience in education, non-profit publishing, human resources, and e-commerce. Born and raised in California, Olivia has also lived in the midwest and on the east coast. She loves animals, and works with her Shiba Inu as a therapy dog. Read Olivia Fae Stadler's interview with The Center for Mindful Psychotherapy here.

Experience and Expertise:

Olivia continues to deepen her knowledge in the field of psychotherapy with continuing education, including consultation, training, and professional memberships:


Ongoing Consultation Groups

  • Couples
  • Hakomi
  • Internal Family Systems
  • Transpersonal



  • Consensual Non-Monogamy: Understanding and Supporting Clients in Alternative Relationship Structures




Professional Memberships

  • CFO, and former Hospitality Chair, of Monterey County chapter of CAMFT
  • California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT)
  • Bay Area Open Minds
  • Northern California Group Psychotherapy Society (NCGPS)


Olivia is a lifelong learner, always deepening her skillset with continuing education through trainings and workshops. Below is a sampling of completed trainings:

  • Trauma Certification
  • Authentic Relating Level 1, 2
  • Grief Medicine for Heartbreaking Times
  • Autism, ADHD, and Mental Health
  • David Richo: Loving Kindness in Relationship
  • Sexual Disorders: A Treatment Update
  • Sensorimotor Therapy Techniques for Trauma Treatment: Practical Skills
  • Safeguarding Your Psychotherapy Practice: The Essentials
  • What Therapists Need to Know about Medication and Referring for a Psychiatric Consultation
  • The Myth of the Unitary Self
  • Stop the Dread & Avoidance of Anxiety! How to Apply IFS Techniques for Anxiety
  • IFS In Action: Leading Clients to Self-Leadership
  • An Introduction to Narrative Therapy in Practice
  • Telehealth Treatment of Addictive Behavior
  • IFS In Action Master Class by Richard Schwartz
  • The Art of Integrating Expanded States of Consciousness
  • HIV/AIDS: Providing Effective, Informed, & Compassionate Care
  • Social Media Ethics for Mental Health Professionals
  • Ethics: Reconsidering Dual Relationships
  • Professional Wills
  • HIPAA in the Age of COVID-19
  • California Telehealth Law
  • 2021 California Legislative Update
  • Spirituality in Psychotherapy
  • Transforming the 'Living Legacy' of Trauma
  • Working with Families using Evidence-Informed Principles: An Overview
  • The Call of Darkness: Managing Suicidality in Clinical Practice
  • The Couples Institute Developmental Model - Level 1
  • When Words Fail and Bodies Speak:Psychoanalytic Treatment of Eating Disorders
  • Addiction: Basics and Beyond for Mental Health Professionals
  • Bay Area Open Minds – Being a Part of the Communities You Serve
  • A Workshop with Esther Perel: Exploring Modern Relationships
  • Transform Trauma through “Fierce Love”: Using the AEDP Therapist’s Bold, Embodied Presence
  • Principles of Drama Therapy
  • Northern California Group Psychotherapy Society (NCGPS) Clinical Conferences
  • Adult Attachment Repair Model
  • The Couples Conference
  • Hakomi Professional Skills Levels 1 and 2
  • Re-Creation of the Self
  • Embodied Touch and Healing in Psychotherapy

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Olivia is a gifted, extraordinary person who went on to become an extraordinary therapist. I personally came to Olivia to deal with a mountain of problems that I suspected were tied in some way to a trauma I had as a child. Although I expected to talk and be listened to, I was totally unprepared for the experience of being listened to by Olivia. She seems to listen at dozens of levels at once -- in a deep, quiet, attentive, detailed, and profoundly compassionate way. It made me feel seen and heard in a way I had never experienced: it was healing in itself. As we found our way to important insights about me, they rang with a truth so obvious that I had trouble understanding how I could not have seen them sooner. When I was in pain, some of it excruciating, Olivia's presence made it possible for me to bear. Even when we were connected only by video, I deeply felt her immense compassion and care. It came from her not just as a therapist with superb training, extensive knowledge, broad competence, and strong professional discipline, but also as a human being with a deep sense of spirituality and love. I quickly came to realize that in working with her, and for the first time in my life, I felt there was no problem, fear or pain that I could not face, accept, and heal. I strongly believe that if you are lucky enough to have made it this far and find her, you will forever thank yourself for taking the next step.


Olivia has been there for me thru many life changes since early 2021. I initially started seeing Olivia as a couple's therapist while my partner and I were navigating our alternative relationship and vastly different attachment styles. It was a successful journey and I am so grateful for Olivia's support thru that. This year, I realised that I needed to go back to therapy and work thru some personal issues. With the approval of my partner, I started solo therapy with Olivia and have grown and learned so much about myself. She has wonderful insight and helpful resources, and I highly recommend her!


I have been very fortunate to have Olivia in my life for the past 2 years for therapy. She has been such a valuable asset in my spiritual growth. She has a lot of grace in her ability to keep you present and mindful. I really enjoyed her guided meditations and the somatic work she did on me. She really helped me untangle a lot of my emotional trauma and navigate my feelings in such a compassionate way. I feel like my openness and self acceptance are a big part from the work I have done with her. She has spiritually changed my outlook on not just myself, but also on life. I am forever grateful for our time together and would recommend her to anyone looking for somatic work and any sort trauma work.


Olivia is extraordinary. I went to see Olivia with my partner for couples therapy. I got so much more than I expected. Olivia knew how to engage a queer interracial couple from two different socio-economic background, two different generations, and two different histories with therapy. That's a lot to navigate. And she did so in a manner that left me feeling heard, seen, understood, and validated. She knew the issues queer men face. She was well versed in racial dynamics, unconscious white privilege and ancestral wounding. And she had deep insight into how histories of class and family upbringing impact present day relationships. As the kids today would say- She's "Woke". And again, Olivia integrates all of this with solid tools, exercises, theory, and experiential engagements that brings the therapy to life. What I also appreciated was Olivia's multivalent approach to therapy. It was intuitive, embodied, energetic, spiritual, and relational. And I could tell it was backed by her incredibly intellect, academic expertise, and diligent skill building. I gained so many tools to help me in relationship building. I've been a substance abuse counselor for years. I've worked with some of the most underserved populations who have the most challenging histories in my community. And Olivia taught me so much with her skill and insight. Her ability to compassionately call me on my own "stuff" was superb. She helped unveil the blind spots I'd been unconsciously operating under for years. She's the type of therapist that healers need to see. With Olivia, My healing process took a quantum leap. I went in to address issues in my partnership and ended up learning how to have healthier relationships with myself in addition to all the beloveds in my life. Go see Olivia. Take the leap. And learn how to fly!